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Resources
- Websites, Literature and Services, in the UK, or online, for male and females adults survivors of Child Abuse and Neglect -
Websites
- Co-dependent Anonymous (CODA) www.coda-uk.org/
- Beating Trauma - Elizabeth Corey
www.BeatingTrauma.com/
- Emerging From Broken - Darlene Ouimet htts//www.emergingfrombroken.com/
- Baggage Reclaim - Natalie Lue
(Everything on how to get out of the vicious cycle of unhealthy relationships)
https://www.baggagereclaim.co.uk/
- Pandora's Project (Lots of resources about all types of sexual abuse and there is a forum too) https://pandys.org/intro.html
- Elefriends (Online Support Forum for those suffering from mental health difficulties and needing to reach out - Mind)
https://www.elefriends.org.uk/
- Survivors UK (for male survivors)
https://www.survivorsuk.org/about-us
- For Male Survivors of Rape & Sexual Abuse | Pandora's Project
https://pandys.org/malesurvivors.html
Books
- The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass & Laura Davis
- The Courage To Heal Workbook by Laura Davis
- Co-dependent No More and Beyond Co-dependency by Melody Beattie
- Addiction To Love and The Art of Changing - Susan Peabody
- Mr Unavailable & the Fallback Girl and
The Dreamer and the Fantasy Relationship by Natalie Lue
- The Sexual Healing Journey - A guide for Survivors of Sexual Abuse
- by Wendy Maltz
- Vagina - A New Biography - by Naomi Wolf
- Self Compassion - Dr Kristin Neff-PhD
- No Bad Parts: Dr Richard Schwartz - PhD
- The Body Keeps The Score, Brain, Mind, and the Body in the Healing of Trauma - Bessel van der Kolk
- In the Realm of The Hungry Ghosts, Close Encounters with Addiction - Gabor Mate
All these books are available at amazon.co.uk - paperback and Kindle
Services in the UK
- One In Four: counselling Services by survivors of CSA, for survivors of CSA.
- http://www.oneinfour.org.uk/
- Mosac - We Stand Supporting non abusing parents and carers of sexually abused children http://www.mosac.org.uk/
- NAPAC Offers support for adults survivors and training for who support them. https://napac.org.uk/
- Cassel Centre offers affordable counselling in South East London
http://www.casselcentre.org.uk/
- The Survivors Trust - offers support and guidance http://thesurvivorstrust.org/find-support/london-england/
- Haven Charity Providing Counselling Support to Victims of Domestic & Sexual Abuse Across London... http://www.havennetwork.org.uk/
- Into The Light (London) Offers counselling, information, support and resources for people who have experienced child sexual abuse and those that support them: http://www.intothelight.org.uk/about/
- Assunta Cucca - Coaching & Employee engagement. Assunta gives One to one coaching session.
- www.kokoroconsultancy.co.uk
- Karen Isbister, Becoming Whole. I highly recommend her therapy services. She offers: Abuse counselling; PTSD therapy; C-PTSD therapy; Depression and anxiety treatment and more!
- All available in person or online, she lives in Australia. She offers concession fees, when places available. -
What is it Life Coaching? What isn't Life Coaching?
It is a
partnership between a Life Coach and a client.
The coach facilitates a safe space and creates a positive rapport in order for the client to identify the inner blocks to their goals, hindering their happiness. Life Coaching helps the client to identify their own goals, to find their own solutions and achieve personal growth and transformation.
Life Coaching isn’t therapy. Although we acknowledge most inner blocks have their roots in the client’s past, we don’t dwell deep on it (this is best done in a therapeutic setting), but, with the client’s permission, we can explore how the "Then and There" affects the "Here and Now", and how the client can move forward, with Self-Compassion.
If I feel a client could benefit from ongoing therapy, I will advise they do so.
My approach is trauma informed. What is trauma? What does "Trauma Informed" means and how does it fit in with Life Coaching?
Trauma is the impact any significant event that has a lasting adverse effect on an individual’s happiness and well-being. The earlier and the longer lasting the stressful event in an individual’s life, the deeper the debilitating effect on a person’s happiness and well-being are.
“Trauma-informed coaching happens when the coach understands what trauma is, how it presents in the coaching room and how to respond. All this, within established coaching boundaries and contracts.”
Julia Vaughan Smith –
Coaching and Trauma
I have personal and professional experience of trauma and have a real understanding of its impact on mind, body and spirit.
What is Self-Compassion?
Self-compassion is extending compassion to oneself in instances of perceived inadequacy, failure, or general suffering.
Dr Kristin Neff,
PhD, has pioneered and defines self-compassion as being composed of three main components –
mindfulness, common humanity, and self-kindness.
Self-compassion is facing our deepest fears, outdated self-beliefs and our perceived inadequacies with loving kindness towards oneself, by learning to take the time to acknowledge when we are hurting (Mindfulness) , by reminding ourselves how suffering is part of the our human experience and we all experience it (to some degree), we aren’t as alone as we think we are (common Humanity ) and, finally, by taking time to sooth and to love ourselves though our pain as we would with a dear friend of ours (Self-Kindness).
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How does Self-Compassion and Trauma Informed Coaching work?
Oftentimes, our deepest fears, outdated self-beliefs and perceived inadequacies, are the very things blocking us from creating a happy, fulfilled life, and building happy relationships, tailored to our needs and aspirations.
These blocks have roots in our past, whether we are aware of this or not, and will impact our thoughts, feeling and our behaviour as well as on how we perceive ourselves and the world around us. The more severe a past trauma, such as Child Sexual Abuse, the stronger the blocks, which are survival/ defence mechanisms created in childhood in order to survive extreme violence and neglect.
They are also natural responses to abuse and neglect,
when the child really has no one to turn to.
In Coaching, there is an opportunity for the client to explore how the past has an impact on the present and focus on what the client can achieve NOW by becoming their own best friend through anything life throws at them and by having compassion for what they have been through. I will provide the space, the support and some tools (such as reading materials, meditations practice etc...), when necessary, to support clients on their journey.
The coaching process will be led by the client. It will be tailored to the client’s needs, with the client’s approval.
The coaching will be most effective if the client is willing and ready to commit
100% to their journey of self-discovery and healing. During Trauma Informed and Self- Compassion based Life Coaching sessions, the client will learn to approach their biggest blocks and find their inner resources of loving kindness and compassion towards themselves.
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Zoom or Teams
For those who would prefer to have their Life Coaching sessions, remotely, I use Zoom and Microsoft Team.
Venues for face-to-face sessions
TBC
Life Coaching sessions available from January 2023
My Fees
- 30 Minutes Skype/ Zoom or phone
assessment:
FREE
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Full price
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£80. (8 to 10 sessions
in total.)
-Concession prices: £60 (8 to 10 sessions in total.)
If you are experiencing financial hardship, such as unemployment or long-term disability, I offer limited places on concession fees. Please, contact me to discuss.
All payments via bank transfer.
